My first 10 days in Korea went really fast! I met my husband after 3months and 3days, the feeling of seeing him again was so overwhelming! It still is, but that was something different I had! So, at first I didn’t really notice Korean people around me at all. Except that, I’m some kinda alien to them lol 😉 Anyways, finally I was able to get over my overwhelming, and started noticing things and people around.
Koreans are curious about foreigners. When they see someone which is quite different than them, they will give you a look, which often may makes you feel like an alien, but trust me, they are just curious! Specially when you are in bus or subway you will see elderly people looking directly at you with surprise 😉
They are basically curious about things they are not used to with. Koreans, specially young Koreans love to follow USA and the lifestyle of USA. Most of the Koreans are Buddhist or atheist, only few people are christian. But still they enjoy Christmas like any christian. You will astonished by the arrangements they make in the streets, marts , restaurants or in coffee shops, with Christmas trees or with Santa Claus.
There is one common thing Korean women shares with Bengali women. Which is being insecure about themselves. I mean about their looks.
Bengali women are usually insecure about their color, because south Asian part is a mystery of the world, you will see people with almost every type of colors. So, if you are someone who is very fair compare to the woman next to you, you are actually causing her lots of trouble. People are measuring her in scale of your fairness. lol 😛 Then comes how beautiful your eyes are, how sharp your nose is, how tall you are or if you have a nice physical shape or not. -_-
Here, Koreans are fair by born. But still they want to be much fairer. In fact they have a soft corner for white people from western countries. They take extra care of them. 😉 Even the makeup trend of Koreans are kinda different. I mean they use a really bright bb cream, sometimes which is even more brighter than their skin. So, their shades of face (which is way too whitish) and neck never matches after makeup, and they are pretty comfortable with it. I heard it’s a way to make the face look more pale i.e. more natural. Anyways, every country has their different style of everything. But I felt like, only brightest bb / cc / foundation shades coming in to Korean market actually reflects their insecurity, trying to look more fairer. Their biggest insecurity is their facial shape. So, they often gets cosmetic / plastic surgery, to widen their eyes, sharpen their nose, or to fix a round face to a more attractive shape. Cause those surgeries are very cheap here compared to other countries. So, cosmetic surgery rate is quite high in Korea. In fact Korea has the highest rate of cosmetic surgery in the world. (http://www.asianplasticsurgeryguide.com/news10-2/081003_south-korea-highest.html)
Anyways, Koreans are actually very positive towards surgeries. To them, surgery is like a permanent makeup, where you do not need to wash it off at night or put it again in the morning. 🙂
Koreans women also feel insecure about their age. So, when you met someone new, she will definitely ask you about your age. And if you are elder than them, you will see there’s flash of happiness in their eyes! 😉
Not every Koreans understand the facts about Muslim or other religions. But those who do, think Muslim families are usually dominated by men, where women have no say at all. lol 😛 Of course, I rely on my husband for almost everything, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t respect my words or wish. So, if you are Muslim, and visiting Korea, you may be questioned who is the powerful one in the house! Also, in some cases you may be asked, if your husband gives his consent to you to do so. 😉
Usually Korean women are in charge of all the household works, groceries, shopping, house, rent -utility services payment, banking etc. Men are supposed to earn, but how to spend the earning, that is solely up to the woman in the house. One of my male Korean friend even said to me, wives are guardian of the husbands here. 😉
I am not sure about this one, but I hear Korean women are very choosy when it comes to marriage and life partner. It was told by a parson, who is A male, so there could be other side of the story. Also, amny Korean women are very career oriented. May be sometimes it just a pressure for them, taking all the responsibilities of their own and others. (http://www.koreaherald.com/view.php?ud=20160719000872 ) So, a lot of Koreans marry ladies from nearby countries, like Filipino, Vietnamese etc. Few days ago, I saw a news, that says, now a majority of both men and women in Korea don’t wanna get married, because before and after part of any marriage is kinda expensive. I couldn’t manage the exact link, but this one here has similar information. ( http://english.chosun.com/site/data/html_dir/2016/11/26/2016112600430.html )
But you will see even different pictures too. Foreign men sometimes gets settled in Korea leaving friends and family, marrying a Korean women. They even say, Korean women are the best kinda housewives! Like I mentioned before, Korean women are in charge of all the household works, groceries, shopping, house, rent -utility services payment, banking etc. Once you marry them, just keep doing your job, and she will take care of the rest!
Most of the Koreans are very generous and very well mannered. They will try their best when you seek help to them. Can’t find a place? Ask the nearest pedestrian. He or she will definitely help you! Sometimes, they will even go with you, to make sure that you reached safely! 😉
Learning Korean language is kinda difficult and speaking Korean is even more difficult. Because Koreans don’t usually understand when you say those in a different accent. You have to be very precise, otherwise they won’t get you! But finally when they do, they will try to correct your pronunciation. Like I said, they are very helpful 😀
So, that was all about what I learned in 602 days in Korea. I hope to learn even more! Sorry for a long post! Have a lovely weekend! ❤
–Munira Chowdhury, 20/01/17