So, yesterday Bangladeshi media went nuts with the divorce news of one celebrity couple. They both were pretty famous, and a big portion of this generation has had a crush on them. They were the example of an ideal couple to this generation and now as they are separating, everyone is making a fuss about if there’s actually any example of ‘perfect relation’ out there. From yesterday, I am reading facebook posts, where most people expressed their frustration about this news, and almost every one of them concluded that ‘so no relation is perfect’!
And I am like, seriously? What struck me even more is, everyone talks about a perfect relationship! To be honest, I never heard anything more gross than a perfect relationship! Not only a relationship, there’s no beauty in any ‘perfect’ thing. You can value perfection only in the presence of imperfection. I was even telling to my husband that, ‘you know why the moments we makeup becomes wonderful after a fight? because we had a FIGHT!’ If that didn’t even happen, there will be no MAKEUP moment. I wouldn’t even realize how much I love being with him if there’s no pause in being in love.
Perfection is gross and boring! And people can’t bear being bored. You know, we often heard how people gets sea sickness and bored while ship traveling on sea? I strongly believe those people gets bored by the endless sea. Sea is the most beautiful creation of almighty, but for a day or two, you may enjoy that. Because you’ve never been on a cruising ship, never been in the middle of a sea before. But after three days you will realize there’s nothing exceptional about sea. You’ve already seen what you need to see in two days. And now, it’s just boring! The endless water waves are so perfect, so beautiful, yet they are nothing to you. Their perfection making them even more boring, right? If you are unfortunately fortunate may be you get to see the dark side of the sea, when there’s a storm. And even in danger you will enjoy that anyways because you never saw something so terrible yet so beautiful! Human mind enjoy darkness. For a simple example, even in the simple argument most people will love to win even with the dirtiest way. So, even when that storm is terrible, even when you are afraid about your life, somehow and somewhere inside your mind you will enjoy it. And after a storm you may feel the sea is not that boring always, but to realize ‘that’ you have to face a ‘storm’.
Human mind can’t take perfection. There’s a dark side of everything in their world. There’s day after night, positive in negative, good in bad, by born mankind is accustomed to versatility. To impress them, you have to present the two sides of everything. They crave perfection, yet they do not want it all. You introduce them perfection with imperfection and now they will take all of it!
There’s no beauty in light without dark, there’s no perfection in ‘flawlessness’. Imperfection is what makes perfection, ‘perfect’.
-Munira Chowdhury, 21/07/17